Whether you met your sweetie online, in line at a coffee shop, or through friends, breakups are a sad part of life. During one, you're actually grieving a loss - the loss of a relationship that you once had high hopes for. And when those hopes are dashed, it can be miserable.
But you don't have to suffer forever. Feel better sooner by taking advantage of these 7 tips:
1. Make your ex completely off-limits.
Don't call them, text them, email them, or see them. If you know they always head to a certain café or gym, stay away from it. And while you're at it, stay away from places that were significant to the two of you - like the restaurant you went to on your first date, or the park where you used to jog together.
Think you can sneak in a teeny-tiny conversation or a quick email? Think again! You'll instantly be reminded of everything you lost. Right now, your emotions are like an open wound - if you keep picking at the scab, it'll never heal.
2. Let yourself cry.
Keeping all your feelings bottled up won't make them go away. In fact, that'll make you feel worse! So go ahead and cry, get angry, and let out any other emotions you're dealing with.
Just remember - crying all the time isn't healthy, no matter how bad your breakup was. If the tears won't stop flowing, it could be a sign of depression.
3. Tap into your support group.
Lean on your friends and family, and talk to them about what you're going through. If you think you need it, don't be ashamed to talk to a professional therapist. Either way, there are people who can help you feel better if you let them.
4. Think of the future.
Just because you're no longer in a relationship doesn't mean you're doomed to a miserable failure of a life. You're still capable of achieving great things! Take some time to figure out what your hopes, dreams, and goals are now that your ex is no longer in the picture.
5. Spoil yourself.
A special treat can work wonders for your mood, so go get a massage or buy that special something you've been thinking about. You don't have to spend money though. Instead, you can spoil yourself for free by reading your favorite book or lounging in a hot tub.
6. Don't go on the rebound.
It may be tempting to start something with the hottie who keeps winking at you, but don't do it! Jumping into a new relationship before you have a chance to heal from your old one won't work. You're simply not ready, and that's not fair to this new person.
Yes, you need to let love back into your life - eventually. Give yourself some time to heal, and then you'll be able to legitimately move on!
The best tip for surviving that awful breakup?
7. Avoid it in the first place!
In his article Marital Unhappiness: A New Remedy, Wallace D. Wattles wrote:
"There is much talk about marital unrest, and much criticism of the marriage institution; it is admitted by all that too many marriages are failures, and it is claimed by many that most marriages are failures; but it is not denied by any one that some marriages are successful.
To admit that five per cent of all marriages are successful is to admit that all marriages might be made successful; for the couples who compose the five per cent are not in any way different from the ninety-five per cent; they are in all walks of life, and subject to all environments and conditions; they are just average people, and if they make a success of marriage others could make a success of it by following the same methods; for like causes, under like conditions, must produce like effects.
If we stop theorizing, sermonizing, lecturing and legislating upon marriage, and apply constructive science, we shall find out the conditions of successful marriages, and learn how to create them in every case. We must study the constructive use of the forces which draw men and women into the married state and hold them there."
The same can be said of any relationship, marital or otherwise.
If you'd like to turn your unhappy relationship into a happy relationship before it's too late, I highly recommend you read Marital Unhappiness: A New Remedy along with its companion article, A Second Courtship, both written by Wallace D. Wattles. The first contains Mr. Wattles' scientific remedy for marital unhappiness; the second is a fictional case study of how one man used it to save his failed marriage from an almost certain divorce. Click or tap the links below to get your copies today.
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