The internet makes life so much more convenient. Got a question? Google the answer. Want to reconnect with a long-lost friend? Search for them on Facebook.
But there's one thing the internet actually makes more difficult - hanging onto your self-esteem!
In a few mouse clicks, you can see just how wonderful everyone else's life is. Whether it's the celebrity jetting off to Cannes or your college friend's over-the-top wedding, people use the internet to show off all the amazing things they're doing. Unfortunately, it's hard not to compare yourself to others when you see all those happy posts. However, going down this rabbit hole is a surefire way to destroy your self-esteem.
Here's why comparing yourself to others is so dangerous:
- It makes you jealous.
Instead of being genuinely happy that your coworker had a beautiful baby, you're sitting there grumbling, "Why don't I get to have a beautiful baby?!" And, unfortunately, jealousy is one of the most unflattering emotions on the planet.
- It makes you focus on weakness.
You may have been perfectly happy with your weight - until you saw your friend's Facebook post that detailed how they lost fifteen pounds. All of a sudden, your body isn't good enough. Instead of thinking about what you like about yourself, all you can think about is the "problem" that you need to fix.
- It makes you frustrated.
Know that awful feeling you get when you're so hungry that you're cranky? That's nothing compared to a big dose of frustration! Unfortunately, the more time you spend thinking about all the great things everyone else is doing, the more frustrated you're going to get. In the end, you may convince yourself that it's not even worth trying to move forward.
- It makes you become a hermit.
If you're spending time thinking about how much better off your friends are, the last thing you're going to want to do is hang out with them! Instead of silently stewing during happy hour, you'll choose to sit at home alone.
- It makes you anxious.
The more you compare yourself to everyone else, the louder the little voice in your head will get - you know, the voice that says you're awful and you're destined to fail. Let that little voice nag you long enough, and you'll be so anxious about failing that you'll never try anything!
- It can lead to depression.
Add all these things up and it's easy to slip into a full-blown case of depression. And, unfortunately, depression is a hard cycle to break out of. Don't think it can happen to you? Many people say they've actually sought out a therapist because of their excessive comparing!
Bottom line: stop measuring your worth against everyone else's persona - internet or otherwise. Instead of wishing that things could be better, go out and make them better!
In his book The Science of Being Great, Wallace D. Wattles wrote:
"... you are a god among gods. You are as great as the greatest, but all are your equals."
Always remember that!
By the way, if you have the least little issue with comparing yourself to others or your self-esteem in general, I highly recommend reading The Science of Being Great by Wallace D. Wattles in its entirety. You'll never look at yourself quite the same again! Click or tap the links below to get your copy today.
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