You probably know how important it is to love yourself, but actually doing it can seem downright impossible.
That's because you have to fight your subconscious mind.
Your subconscious is a powerful thing - with most of the messages in it dating all the way back to your childhood. It's responsible for all of those negative thoughts and feelings you have. And, unfortunately, things your parents and other people said and did decades ago are still playing a role in how your subconscious mind works today.
Want an example?
If someone important in your life told you that you weren't any good, that you weren't smart, or that you'd never amount to anything, you probably believed them. After all, you were just a little kid, and they were someone who played a big role in your life. Sadly, you still believe them to this day - even if you don't consciously remember the specific conversation. Your subconscious is using these sad statements in the background to influence your thoughts, and as long as you're being pummeled by them, you'll never truly love yourself.
So, how do you overcome these old messages and replace them with new, empowering messages?
It takes some work and some time to win the battle against your subconscious, but it can be done. Here's how:
1. Romance yourself.
Think back to the early days with your significant other. You probably spent a lot of time giving them attention and affection. And, in turn, you probably felt swept up in all of the attention and affection they showered on you. It's a wonderful feeling to be that loved, right?
So do it to yourself!
Go out of your way to treat yourself like royalty. Say sweet things to yourself, buy yourself some nice things, and spend time doing things that you really love. Remind yourself that you deserve all of this attention and affection, and soon enough, you'll really believe it!
2. Dive into your existing beliefs.
If you think your subconscious is full of thoughts that are holding you back - but you don't know what, exactly, they are - go on a journey of self-discovery. All you need is a pen and a piece of paper. Write down several prompts - like, "My earliest memory of feeling stupid is __," "My mom always made me feel __," "My father always treated me __,". Then, fill in the blanks with the first thing that pops into your head. By the time you're done, you'll see what's rattling around in your subconscious.
Once you know what you're up against, challenge those messages. Ask yourself if they're accurate. Were they ever accurate? Most importantly, do you want them to be accurate? If not, focus on how you think and feel now. With some work, you can fill your subconscious with new and improved messages.
3. Focus on the good.
If you're having trouble loving yourself, it's likely because you focus on what you do wrong, instead of what you do right. Eliminating this way of thinking can be tough, but you can do it by changing your self-talk. If that little voice in your head says good things, you'll eventually start loving yourself.
For example, when you accomplish something, congratulate yourself! Tell yourself how awesome you are for making things happen!
Even if nothing extraordinary is happening, you can change your self-talk. Simply make affirmations a part of your regular routine. By frequently telling yourself things like, "I'm valuable," "I have a lot to offer to the world," and "I'm talented," you'll start to believe them. And once you believe them, you'll legitimately love yourself!
Here's something for you to ponder...
It comes from "Your Own Ability", the sixth of fifteen articles in Wallace D. Wattles' Lessons in Constructive Science series:
"You are not a worm of dust; you are a god. You may not be manifesting much god-power just yet, but you are going to; you have it within you, and you only need to come to yourself. And you have not only the dynamic or vital power, but you have the mental ability; it all goes together. It does not matter in the least how many failures you have made in the past; you did not make them for lack of ability, but for lack of the technical knowledge how to so apply your ability as to produce results. No matter who you are, or what you have done, you have never given out a thousandth part of what is in you."
If you have any self-esteem issues whatsoever (and, quite frankly, even if you don't), for starters, I suggest you read this and its companion article, "The Matter of Attitude", the seventh of the fifteen articles in Mr. Wattles' Lessons in Constructive Science series to set yourself straight on some things you may need to be set straight on. Click or tap the links below to get them today.
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I would like to apply everything that Wallace D. Wattles' writings are teaching me to financial prosperity.
What is your opinion to how can I sell online?
Three things for starters:
1. Way too broad a question!
That's like asking me "How do I sell offline?". It depends, on a lot of things, doesn't it?
2. Not my area of expertise.
Yes, I know I sell online. But it's very specific products to a very specific audience, both of which have evolved over a long period of years in a very specific way.
3. There's no easy way.
Now, I'm not saying this is necessarily the case here, but, experience tells me, most of the people who ask me questions like this are looking for something for nothing. They're looking for some easy way to make money online that requires little, if any, effort their part. It doesn't exist, plain and simple. Anyone who tells you it does, quite frankly, doesn't know what they're talking about.
That said, here are two things that'll point you in the right direction and help you avoid wasting time and money on things that don't work.
1. Choose your business.
Way up there on my list of favorite things that Wallace D. Wattles wrote is this passage from Lesson 4 of his book The Personal Power Course:
"... you must know what you want to do. First, choose your business. Choose the one that seems most in line with your tastes, and which will require the use of your strongest faculties. Select for your life work the thing you most WANT to do. Do not become possessed by the idea that you must be fixed by circumstances in some business or profession which you do not like, and barred out from the one which you WOULD like. Even though you are making money, you are not successful so long as you are doing something you do not like to do, and not doing the thing you want to do. The man who feels that he is misplaced is neither wealthy nor successful. Perhaps the most essential part of wealth-culture consists in finding the place where you will be happy in your work. If you are not happy in your work, you are a slave."
The business you want to be in and the amount of money you want to earn in that business should be part of your vision statement that you then internalize and begin moving toward. Once you do so, the necessary ways and means, which is essentially the question you're asking me here, will present themselves to you. They did me, and they will you as well!
Note: While we're on the subject, there's no magic in doing business online. Just as you can get rich in any business, which Mr. Wattles pointed out in his writings, you can get rich in any form of doing business. Online or offline doesn't really matter.
If you don't know how to create a vision, internalize it, and begin moving toward it, I highly recommend you read my Wallace D. Wattles Quick Start Guide, which, among many other important things, covers all three in detail. Click or tap the link below to get your copy today.
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2. Deliver value.
In his writings, Mr. Wattles talked about the importance of giving more in use value than you receive in cash value and, thus, adding to the life of the world with every transaction.
Whatever business you choose to be in and however you choose to do it, you want to not just give more in use value than you receive in cash value, but massively more! I do that with every product I put out there and encourage you to do the same.
There's a lot more I could say on the subject, but I'll leave it at that for now. Quite frankly, most folks never do the first thing. They never choose their business. They hop from one online moneymaking scheme to the next and, when all is said and done, have little to show for it other than empty bank accounts and maxed out credit cards. Don't let that be you!
By the way, The Personal Power Course by Wallace D. Wattles is one of the best business books you'll ever read. Here's another passage from it I really like:
"Business success is a matter of using certain mental and physical materials so as to combine them into a certain relationship. To succeed in business, we must take certain people and certain things, and combine them together in a certain way; and when we have done this, we have succeeded. Just as, in building a house, the mason takes bricks and mortar and combines them into a structure, so in business we seek to take people, goods, money, and bring them into such relations to each other as to form a certain structure. You are trying to build a structure, and your materials are people, goods, and money."
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