You probably know how important it is to love yourself, but actually doing it can seem downright impossible.
That's because you have to fight your subconscious mind.
Your subconscious is a powerful thing - with most of the messages in it dating all the way back to your childhood. It's responsible for all of those negative thoughts and feelings you have. And, unfortunately, things your parents and other people said and did decades ago are still playing a role in how your subconscious mind works today.
Want an example?
If someone important in your life told you that you weren't any good, that you weren't smart, or that you'd never amount to anything, you probably believed them. After all, you were just a little kid, and they were someone who played a big role in your life. Sadly, you still believe them to this day - even if you don't consciously remember the specific conversation. Your subconscious is using these sad statements in the background to influence your thoughts, and as long as you're being pummeled by them, you'll never truly love yourself.
So, how do you overcome these old messages and replace them with new, empowering messages?
It takes some work and some time to win the battle against your subconscious, but it can be done. Here's how:
1. Romance yourself.
Think back to the early days with your significant other. You probably spent a lot of time giving them attention and affection. And, in turn, you probably felt swept up in all of the attention and affection they showered on you. It's a wonderful feeling to be that loved, right?
So do it to yourself!
Go out of your way to treat yourself like royalty. Say sweet things to yourself, buy yourself some nice things, and spend time doing things that you really love. Remind yourself that you deserve all of this attention and affection, and soon enough, you'll really believe it!
2. Dive into your existing beliefs.
If you think your subconscious is full of thoughts that are holding you back - but you don't know what, exactly, they are - go on a journey of self-discovery. All you need is a pen and a piece of paper. Write down several prompts - like, "My earliest memory of feeling stupid is __," "My mom always made me feel __," "My father always treated me __,". Then, fill in the blanks with the first thing that pops into your head. By the time you're done, you'll see what's rattling around in your subconscious.
Once you know what you're up against, challenge those messages. Ask yourself if they're accurate. Were they ever accurate? Most importantly, do you want them to be accurate? If not, focus on how you think and feel now. With some work, you can fill your subconscious with new and improved messages.
3. Focus on the good.
If you're having trouble loving yourself, it's likely because you focus on what you do wrong, instead of what you do right. Eliminating this way of thinking can be tough, but you can do it by changing your self-talk. If that little voice in your head says good things, you'll eventually start loving yourself.
For example, when you accomplish something, congratulate yourself! Tell yourself how awesome you are for making things happen!
Even if nothing extraordinary is happening, you can change your self-talk. Simply make affirmations a part of your regular routine. By frequently telling yourself things like, "I'm valuable," "I have a lot to offer to the world," and "I'm talented," you'll start to believe them. And once you believe them, you'll legitimately love yourself!
Here's something for you to ponder...
It comes from "Your Own Ability", the sixth of fifteen articles in Wallace D. Wattles' Lessons in Constructive Science series:
"You are not a worm of dust; you are a god. You may not be manifesting much god-power just yet, but you are going to; you have it within you, and you only need to come to yourself. And you have not only the dynamic or vital power, but you have the mental ability; it all goes together. It does not matter in the least how many failures you have made in the past; you did not make them for lack of ability, but for lack of the technical knowledge how to so apply your ability as to produce results. No matter who you are, or what you have done, you have never given out a thousandth part of what is in you."
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