Humans are a unique species in this world because we have the power of free will and decision making. This can be a blessing or a curse, depending on the decisions you choose to make.
On an average day, we make decisions without even thinking about them. We just subconsciously decide what food to eat, the clothes we wear, and what time we want to wake up. There could be a few seconds where you stop and think, but then your impulse takes over.
For bigger decisions, such as who you're going to marry or where you want to go on vacation, you'll put a lot more thought into these decisions before you make them. No matter how big or serious our decisions are, they will have an impact on our lives. Even the tiniest decision could have a big consequence for us in the future.
People often fear the consequences of the decisions they're pondering over in their minds. This prevents them from making any decision, which is even worse in the long run. You must expect some risk of sadness or conflict from a decision, but that's life. If you want to take control of your life and make it better, then you must make decisions that could possibly have a bad outcome.
Think of making decisions like paying bills. You must do both of these within a certain time even though you're reluctant to do them. For instance, if you're late on your utility payment, then you could end up with no power or water as a consequence. And if you don't make a decision fast enough, the opportunity of that choice may no longer be there either.
What's the purpose of the decision you must make? What must be done to solve the dilemma and when must it be done? Some people like to make a list of the pros and cons of their biggest decisions. What's the consequence of each choice that you could make? If you see all these things spelled out for you on paper, then perhaps you'll see more clearly which decision you should make.
Once you figure out which decision is the best one to make, analyze the possible outcome of that decision and then go ahead and make it happen. If it ends up being a bad decision, then you can at least take comfort in knowing that you made a well-thought decision. More importantly, you can feel good knowing that you took action and didn't just sit back and do nothing.
One big or small decision can change your life forever. This should make you eager to want to make decisions and act on them because it'll increase your chances of improving your life.
Therefore, collect as much information and details on each decision and see if there's a better alternative. If it looks like a positive outcome can be achieved, then make the decision. Don't dwell on bad decisions or decisions that you never made. Just look back to learn from your mistakes so that you don't repeat them again.
Think of decision making like planning out the events of your life. Don't let the consequence and fear of a decision keep you from making it. Usually, the decisions that we think are bad end up turning out great. This is how you build more confidence.
As time goes on, making difficult decisions will actually become easier. You just need to keep practicing your decision making and improving your skills at it. Once you do, you can finally take control of your life and move it in a positive direction.
Want to speed up the process?
Here's a tip:
Once you're clear about what's truly important to you (not what you think should be important to you based on what other people think is important or want you to think is important) and what you really want in life (not what you think you should want based on what other people want or have or what other people want you to want or have) decision making becomes downright simple.
Because then everything pretty much becomes either constructive or destructive of your desired end and, as Wallace D. Wattles wrote in the preface to the articles in his Lessons in Constructive Science series:
"To learn how to make every thought and action constructive, is to master the secret of all attainment."
So, if you're one of those for whom decision making is a constant struggle, my advice is to start by making these two decisions:
- What's truly important to you.
- What you really want next in your life.
Get those two decisions made and all the rest will fall into place rather nicely.
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