We all love to complain whenever we're feeling angry or frustrated in our lives. But some people fall into the trap of complaining instead of taking action. If you're not happy with your life, then you can't expect for complaining to fix it.
Not only is it pointless to constantly complain, but it makes other people uncomfortable to listen to it. After all, do you like hearing other people complain about their problems and grievances? Of course not. You probably go out of your way to avoid them so that you don't have to hear their complaints and angry rants.
It's natural to want to complain though. That's why you need to learn to avoid complaining whenever you feel like doing so. Realize that complaining is really just a bad habit that you've picked up over the years. It's no different than a bad habit like smoking, drinking, or biting your nails. You keep doing it to feel better in real-time, but then it causes you problems in the future.
Every bad habit is like that, including complaining. You complain in order to vent your frustrations and feel better at the moment, but it doesn't help you get to a better place in your life. For this reason, you need to focus less on complaining and more on doing something to change things.
Complaints are the result of negative thoughts and feelings. When these emotions are all bottled up inside of you, then it's natural to want to release them as aggressively as possible. But if you discipline yourself by not letting your negative thoughts control you, then it'll be easier to stop complaining. Negativity doesn't need to control you anymore if you don't let it.
Think about dieting as an example. People who want to lose weight need to have positive thoughts in order to succeed. If your head is filled with negative thoughts like "this is impossible" or "I can't do this," then you're going to reinforce those negative thoughts by not taking action. On the other hand, if you tell yourself "yes, I can do this," then your actions will reflect that positive way of thinking.
How do you stay positive when everything feels so bad or hopeless? Well, let's take a look at some strategies that can help you release those negative emotions and thoughts.
Find a way to relax your mind and body. Take a hot bath, read a good book, watch a comedy film, or do anything that allows you to feel positive inside yourself.
2. Be confident.
You can believe in yourself if you give yourself a chance. Don't be so hard on yourself if you make a mistake. Own up to what happened and move on. If you keep dwelling on the bad things that happened to you in the past, then it keeps the negativity of those incidences inside of you. Then you'll never stop complaining.
3. Stay in a positive environment.
A positive environment can give you positive energy. If you stay around negativity for too long, then you become negative yourself. Negative environments basically enable complainers to keep on complaining. It almost becomes a habit that they continue to feed. If you want to stop complaining, then you must find an environment that gives you no reason to complain. This could mean finding new friends or relationships that give you positive feedback rather than negative feedback.
4. Stop the blame game.
Complainers never want to take responsibility for their actions. Instead, they'll look for someone else to blame in order to feel better about themselves. You can't overcome your problems by doing this. Even if you feel like other people treated you unfairly, how is complaining about it going to make you feel better? It won't.
You need to make peace with what happened and move on. If there are people in your life that are toxic or a bad influence, then stay clear of them if you can at all help it.
5. Keep your mind focused on what you want, not on what you don't want.
Think about it. When your thoughts are those of what you want, how likely are you to complain? Not very, right? It's the things we don't want that we complain about, isn't it?
How do you keep your mind focused on what you want and off what you don't want?
The absolute best way I know of is to have a clear and definite vision that accurately reflects what's truly important to you and what you really want next in your life. Then, whenever you find yourself thinking about what you don't want, regardless of what it may be, you simply, gently switch your thoughts to that of your vision as your already accomplished reality.
The clearer and more definite your vision is and the more accurately it reflects what's truly important to you and what you really want next in your life, the easier this is to do.
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It's not necessarily easy to stop complaining, especially if it's been a long-time habit of yours. But if you continue to work on it, soon, before you know it, you'll find yourself never complaining again, and your life will be all the better for it.