When you see someone going through a difficult situation in their life, it's normal to want to cheer them up by telling them everything will be fine. But if you're the one going through a difficult time, it can feel nearly impossible to see the silver lining.
For instance, if you're outside and heavy rain starts to pour down on top of your head, you might feel like the rain will never stop pouring down. The silver lining of this situation is that the rain will stop coming down eventually, and the sun will reveal itself once again.
Another example is when you face a seemingly hopeless situation. Maybe your marriage is falling apart, or your business is losing money. These types of situations will make you feel like there's nothing but misery in your future. No matter how much you attempt to repair your marriage or save your business, you keep sinking deeper into a pit of despair. Then you start asking yourself how you let this all happen.
By the time you figure out what you did wrong, you realize it's too late to do something about it. Well, it doesn't necessarily need to be that way if you don't let it be that way. Life is a bit like rolling the dice and seeing what opportunities or setbacks come your way.
When you play the board game "Monopoly," you roll the dice to determine which properties you get to buy. You might get "lucky" by having the opportunity to purchase valuable properties. If not, the other players will receive those opportunities instead. The best you can do is play the game and hope for the best. If it turns out you must pay rent to someone else, then you'll do so by whatever means necessary until things turn around for you again.
Monopoly is a lot like real life. You'll have a series of setbacks and misfortunes no matter how well you play the game. The trick is to never give up and to keep moving forward until you turn things around. Again, it's easier said than done because seemingly hopeless situations will cause you to feel stressed out and depressed. If you let these feelings get to your head, then it might cause you to have some self-destructive thoughts or ideas.
When faced with such a situation, be honest with yourself by admitting there may be nothing you can do about it. Look at it as an educational experience and learn from the mistakes you made. The knowledge you gained from this experience can be applied the next time around. That way, the results might be different if you go for it again.
Many, if not most, people use their imaginations in the wrong way. They get depressed when things don't go their way because the outcome is different than what they imagined it would be. People tend to think about how something will benefit them in the future, whether it's a marriage, career, or any other long-term endeavor.
If you're always focused exclusively on the expected outcome rather than on enjoying the journey, you'll be a miserable person. Why? Because there's no predicting where the roll of the dice is going to bring you on the game board of life. All you can do is analyze where you landed on the board and figure out which decisions were right and which decisions were terrible.
By doing that, you won't repeat those mistakes if a similar situation presents itself again. Remember that life doesn't guarantee who wins and who loses. Stop expecting yourself to win all the time because you're not entitled to win any more than anyone else. If you want to win at life, you must learn basic skills through education and experience.
As you continue to improve yourself each time, you should find yourself making fewer mistakes than you made previously. That's how you become a real winner in life. Do you think wealthy people and famous people didn't have hardships along the way? Most of them can tell you horror stories about how hard it was for them to succeed.
However, they overcame those hardships because they learned from their mistakes and continued to work on their goals until they achieved them. Just find that silver lining in each problematic situation and hold onto it. That will be your motivation to persevere.
Here's something for you to ponder today. It comes from Wallace D. Wattles' classic masterpiece, The Science of Getting Rich (with a couple of small additions from me):
"Never allow yourself to feel disappointed. You may expect to have a certain thing at a certain time, and not get it at that time; and this will appear to you like failure.
But if you hold to your faith you will find that the failure is only apparent.
Go on in the certain way, and if you do not receive that thing, you will receive something so much better that you will see that the seeming failure was really a great success.
A student of this science had set his mind on making a certain business combination which seemed to him at the time to be very desirable, and he worked for some weeks to bring it about. When the crucial time came, the thing failed in a perfectly inexplicable way; it was as if some unseen influence had been working secretly against him. He was not disappointed; on the contrary, he thanked God that his desire had been overruled, and went steadily on with a grateful mind. In a few weeks an opportunity so much better came his way that he would not have made the first deal on any account; and he saw that a Mind which knew more than he knew had prevented him from losing the greater good by entangling himself with the lesser.
That is the way every seeming failure will work out for you, if you keep your faith, hold to your purpose, have gratitude, and do, every day, all that can be done that day, doing each separate act in a successful manner.
When you make a failure, it is because you have not asked for enough..."
Or you asked for the wrong thing...
"... keep on, and a larger..."
"... thing then you were seeking will certainly come to you. Remember this."
And remember it well!
Now, just so we're clear here, there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting something, expecting to get it, and imagining yourself with it. In fact, that's exactly what I teach you to do. However, don't get so stuck on that thing that you ignore something bigger or better when it comes along, often disguised as difficulty, failure, hardship, misfortune, or tough times. During times like these, especially when all seems lost, it's usually, in my experience, a real good time to reevaluate and revise you next-level vision and begin moving in a new or modified direction.
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