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How to Find Silver Linings During Tough Times

When you see someone going through a difficult situation in their life, it's normal to want to cheer them up by telling them everything will be fine. But if you're the one going through a difficult time, it can feel nearly impossible to see the silver lining.

For instance, if you're outside and heavy rain starts to pour down on top of your head, you might feel like the rain will never stop pouring down. The silver lining of this situation is that the rain will stop coming down eventually, and the sun will reveal itself once again.

Another example is when you face a seemingly hopeless situation. Maybe your marriage is falling apart, or your business is losing money. These types of situations will make you feel like there's nothing but misery in your future. No matter how much you attempt to repair your marriage or save your business, you keep sinking deeper into a pit of despair. Then you start asking yourself how you let this all happen.

By the time you figure out what you did wrong, you realize it's too late to do something about it. Well, it doesn't necessarily need to be that way if you don't let it be that way. Life is a bit like rolling the dice and seeing what opportunities or setbacks come your way.

When you play the board game "Monopoly," you roll the dice to determine which properties you get to buy. You might get "lucky" by having the opportunity to purchase valuable properties. If not, the other players will receive those opportunities instead. The best you can do is play the game and hope for the best. If it turns out you must pay rent to someone else, then you'll do so by whatever means necessary until things turn around for you again.

Monopoly is a lot like real life. You'll have a series of setbacks and misfortunes no matter how well you play the game. The trick is to never give up and to keep moving forward until you turn things around. Again, it's easier said than done because seemingly hopeless situations will cause you to feel stressed out and depressed. If you let these feelings get to your head, then it might cause you to have some self-destructive thoughts or ideas.

When faced with such a situation, be honest with yourself by admitting there may be nothing you can do about it. Look at it as an educational experience and learn from the mistakes you made. The knowledge you gained from this experience can be applied the next time around. That way, the results might be different if you go for it again.

Many, if not most, people use their imaginations in the wrong way. They get depressed when things don't go their way because the outcome is different than what they imagined it would be. People tend to think about how something will benefit them in the future, whether it's a marriage, career, or any other long-term endeavor.

If you're always focused exclusively on the expected outcome rather than on enjoying the journey, you'll be a miserable person. Why? Because there's no predicting where the roll of the dice is going to bring you on the game board of life. All you can do is analyze where you landed on the board and figure out which decisions were right and which decisions were terrible.

By doing that, you won't repeat those mistakes if a similar situation presents itself again. Remember that life doesn't guarantee who wins and who loses. Stop expecting yourself to win all the time because you're not entitled to win any more than anyone else. If you want to win at life, you must learn basic skills through education and experience.

As you continue to improve yourself each time, you should find yourself making fewer mistakes than you made previously. That's how you become a real winner in life. Do you think wealthy people and famous people didn't have hardships along the way? Most of them can tell you horror stories about how hard it was for them to succeed.

However, they overcame those hardships because they learned from their mistakes and continued to work on their goals until they achieved them. Just find that silver lining in each problematic situation and hold onto it. That will be your motivation to persevere.

Here's something for you to ponder today. It comes from Wallace D. Wattles' classic masterpiece, The Science of Getting Rich (with a couple of small additions from me):

"Never allow yourself to feel disappointed. You may expect to have a certain thing at a certain time, and not get it at that time; and this will appear to you like failure.

But if you hold to your faith you will find that the failure is only apparent.

Go on in the certain way, and if you do not receive that thing, you will receive something so much better that you will see that the seeming failure was really a great success.

A student of this science had set his mind on making a certain business combination which seemed to him at the time to be very desirable, and he worked for some weeks to bring it about. When the crucial time came, the thing failed in a perfectly inexplicable way; it was as if some unseen influence had been working secretly against him. He was not disappointed; on the contrary, he thanked God that his desire had been overruled, and went steadily on with a grateful mind. In a few weeks an opportunity so much better came his way that he would not have made the first deal on any account; and he saw that a Mind which knew more than he knew had prevented him from losing the greater good by entangling himself with the lesser.

That is the way every seeming failure will work out for you, if you keep your faith, hold to your purpose, have gratitude, and do, every day, all that can be done that day, doing each separate act in a successful manner.

When you make a failure, it is because you have not asked for enough..."

Or you asked for the wrong thing...

"... keep on, and a larger..."

Or better...

"... thing then you were seeking will certainly come to you. Remember this."

And remember it well!

Now, just so we're clear here, there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting something, expecting to get it, and imagining yourself with it. In fact, that's exactly what I teach you to do. However, don't get so stuck on that thing that you ignore something bigger or better when it comes along, often disguised as difficulty, failure, hardship, misfortune, or tough times. During times like these, especially when all seems lost, it's usually, in my experience, a real good time to reevaluate and revise you next-level vision and begin moving in a new or modified direction.

If you need help with your next-level vision, I highly recommend my Wallace D. Wattles Quick Start Guide and my Wallace D. Wattles Advanced Vision Guide. Together, they'll give you just about all the help you'll ever need on the subject. Click or tap the links below to get your copies today.

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The Best Ways to Increase Your Luck in Life

Some people call themselves lucky or unlucky. They think it's impossible to control destiny and that your personal qualities and talents are what determine your fortune in life. However, the law of cause and effect tells us a different theory.

What if luck was a choice? The dictionary states that luck is "good fortune that happens by chance." But if you believe in the law of cause and effect, then chance doesn't have much to do with luck. Your thoughts determine your actions (the cause), and your actions create a particular outcome (the effect). Nothing is random here!

Therefore, "luck" is dependent on your actions. If you're the type of person who's a doer rather than a wisher, then you'll likely have good fortune. Just remember to utilize the law of cause and effect to make yourself the luckiest man or woman alive. You must motivate yourself to think like a "lucky person", and then you will be a "lucky person". If you change your thought process into taking action toward the things you want in life, then you will achieve them.

Take a look at someone who appears to be a very lucky person, such as a very successful athlete or movie star. Ask yourself, "How come they had so many wonderful opportunities? Is it because they're naturally lucky?" Well, no, they're not naturally lucky. These are people who don't dwell over the misfortunes in their lives. They keep their expectations high and open to the possibility of having better things in life. Because they have this mindset, they recognize when new opportunities present themselves and then grab onto these opportunities immediately without hesitation.

A truly "lucky person" lives moment to moment instead of in the past. All the bad things that happened to you in the past should be erased from your mind. The same goes for all the bad things that might happen in the future. You don't know what's going to happen. You must live in the now by enjoying the good things that you have in front of you presently. It'll be so much easier to think clearly and recognize what you need to do day by day.

A truly "lucky person" doesn't hesitate for anything. Thoughts of self-doubt and negative projecting are what hold back so many people from achieving success. But if you work hard and smart in the present and grab onto opportunities when they come, you'll find life to be more interesting. So, stop moaning, groaning, and complaining about what you don't have and start focusing on what you do have. Then you can take your life in any direction that you want.

Keep practicing these principles each day, and good fortune will come to you quickly. Then you'll be overwhelmed with new opportunities that'll make your life so much better.

Here's something for you to ponder today. It comes from Making the Man Who Can by Wallace D. Wattles, who's best known for his classic masterpiece The Science of Getting Rich:

"Every man has the inherent power to direct his own abilities and energies; and every man is conscious of having this power. It is because he has it that he is capable of growth and progress. To make a successful man, it is necessary to make one who knows what things result in success, and who will direct his energies to do those things; and the first essential to this is that he should assume the attitude of self-direction.

Every man is either self-directing or directed by the suggestions which come from his environment. The man who can is always a self-directing man; the man who is directed by suggestion is the man who cannot.

The man who is directed by suggestion has a "horoscope"; his destiny is decided by heredity and environment; the self-directing man does not allow his thoughts to be dictated by heredity, environment or the stars; he thinks what he wants to think, and if his horoscope does not suit him he makes a better one.

Business success depends upon business policy; business policy can only be formulated by thought; therefore, whether a man succeeds or fails depends upon the way he thinks.

The directed man only thinks the thoughts which are suggested by his environment; and so he can only do what those around him think he can do.

The self-directing man thinks what he wants to think, and can therefore do what he wants to do.

To become the man who can, the first step is to take the attitude of self-direction."

Want to become the man or woman who can and does? Then I highly recommend reading Making the Man Who Can by Wallace D. Wattles, the original man who could and did, and doing what it tells you to do. Click or tap the links below to get your copy today.

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Note: Making the Man Who Can by Wallace D. Wattles is sometimes referred to as the "missing chapters" of his book The Science of Getting Rich. Well, there's nothing really missing about them. In fact, Making the Man Who Can was first published a year before The Science of Getting Rich was. However, it does fill in the missing pieces of The Science of Getting Rich rather nicely.

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Build Strength with Your Intuition

Have you ever had a certain "gut feeling" about something? This is a feeling that makes you believe that something is true or that something is going to happen. There's no evidence or logic behind a gut feeling. It's just a "sixth sense" or a "hunch" that makes you believe that this thing is real. Well, this feeling is actually your intuition at work.

A person's intuition is very powerful. It comes and goes in each individual. You never know when your intuition will activate. For some people, it activates from specific sounds like birds chirping or cars honking. For fewer people, intuition is a controllable and powerful force that most other people don't experience. You could call it a natural-born gift if you will.

If you were to ask an astrologer about intuition, they'd tell you that Pisces and Scorpios have increased intuition compared to the average person. Of course, the scientific community doesn't endorse astrology and the signs that go along with it. The truth is that anyone is capable of having strong intuition.

It's a blessing to have a strong intuition. For one thing, communication will no longer be a problem for you. You'll have more sensitivity and empathy for the people who you interact with each day. Most importantly, you're less prone to unintentionally hurting your loved ones.

Intuitive people are also creative people. Intuition can help you create better creative work, such as music, paintings, books, and so on. The more you exercise your intuition, the more you'll achieve in life.

Many people don't achieve what they want in life because they're so indecisive and insecure. Strong intuition can help a person make better decisions and have more confidence in them. That means no regret.

You can internally heal yourself with a strong intuition. All the negative energy building inside of you can finally get released. As you keep releasing this negative energy every day, you'll start to become a happier and healthier person.

Here are the top 6 ways that you can increase the strength of your intuition:

1. Get hypnotized.

Visit a professional hypnotist and ask them to help you connect with your inner intuition. If you can't afford a hypnotist, then try to hypnotize yourself.

2. Meditate.

Modern society puts so much stress on people's shoulders. If you focus on this stress every day, then you'll lose touch with the intuition that's inside of you. That's why you should release the stress, anxiety, and negative energy from your body by practicing meditation. The more negative energy you release, the closer you'll get to finding your intuition.

Meditation involves breathing exercises, focusing on no more than one thing at a time, and placing yourself in a quiet and peaceful environment. You may want to take a yoga class or professional meditation class for assistance with this.

3. Make a big decision small.

Big decisions can feel like heavy weights on your shoulders. If you keep focusing on that weight, then you can't focus on your intuition. Take the weight off your shoulders by finding a quiet place in your mind where there are no inhibitions. Once you find that place, your intuitive voice can be heard.

4. Trust your first impressions.

A gut reaction is the first impression that you get when you see or hear something or someone for the first time. Gut reactions are usually honest and reliable. Your intuition is responsible for those gut reactions. That is why you shouldn't try to ignore them. Instead, trust them!

5. Think positive.

Positive things happen to positive thinkers. If you think positive, then your mind will be filled with positive energy. All the stresses, fears, worries, and anxieties that you have will start to vanish. Then you can connect with your intuition and let that guide you more each day.

Whenever you have a happy moment, try to keep that moment alive for as long as possible. We know that it can sometimes be difficult to find good things in life, so make them last when they do occur. As for the rest of the time, keep searching for those positive things until you find them. Stop harping on the negativity.

6. Don't wait.

Practice one or more of the techniques above each day. You must put in the work if you want to develop your intuition. Eventually, you'll get to the point where your intuition will pop up and surprise you unexpectedly. That's when you'll be a strong-willed person with a positive mindset.

It's been said that:

"Prayer is us talking to God; intuition is God talking to us."

How true!

Of all the things that I've learned since I began studying Wallace D. Wattles' writings, learning to trust my "gut", so to speak, and go with it certainly ranks among the most important.

Here's the deal:

If something feels good or right, odds are that it is. If, on the other hand, something doesn't feel good or right, odds are that it isn't. It's really that simple!

Now, simple as it may be, it's real easy to sometimes misinterpret what you're feeling, but over time, with practice, it's something that you'll continually get better at.

So, guess what you should do?

You got it...

Practice!

Begin paying more attention to what you're feeling and then acting in accordance with those feelings.

Trust me, you'll be glad that you did!

By the way, the best book to read on this subject, the one that really opened my eyes to this, is Mr. Wattles' book The Science of Being Great. Click or tap the links below to get your copy today.

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Note: I'm not sure who to credit the above quote to. I've seen it or something similar credited to several different people. Who said it first, I know not.

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Do You Want to Change Your Life? Start by Not Complaining Anymore!

We all love to complain whenever we're feeling angry or frustrated in our lives. But some people fall into the trap of complaining instead of taking action. If you're not happy with your life, then you can't expect for complaining to fix it.

Not only is it pointless to constantly complain, but it makes other people uncomfortable to listen to it. After all, do you like hearing other people complain about their problems and grievances? Of course not. You probably go out of your way to avoid them so that you don't have to hear their complaints and angry rants.

It's natural to want to complain though. That's why you need to learn to avoid complaining whenever you feel like doing so. Realize that complaining is really just a bad habit that you've picked up over the years. It's no different than a bad habit like smoking, drinking, or biting your nails. You keep doing it to feel better in real-time, but then it causes you problems in the future.

Every bad habit is like that, including complaining. You complain in order to vent your frustrations and feel better at the moment, but it doesn't help you get to a better place in your life. For this reason, you need to focus less on complaining and more on doing something to change things.

Complaints are the result of negative thoughts and feelings. When these emotions are all bottled up inside of you, then it's natural to want to release them as aggressively as possible. But if you discipline yourself by not letting your negative thoughts control you, then it'll be easier to stop complaining. Negativity doesn't need to control you anymore if you don't let it.

Think about dieting as an example. People who want to lose weight need to have positive thoughts in order to succeed. If your head is filled with negative thoughts like "this is impossible" or "I can't do this," then you're going to reinforce those negative thoughts by not taking action. On the other hand, if you tell yourself "yes, I can do this," then your actions will reflect that positive way of thinking.

How do you stay positive when everything feels so bad or hopeless? Well, let's take a look at some strategies that can help you release those negative emotions and thoughts.

1. Relax.

Find a way to relax your mind and body. Take a hot bath, read a good book, watch a comedy film, or do anything that allows you to feel positive inside yourself.

2. Be confident.

You can believe in yourself if you give yourself a chance. Don't be so hard on yourself if you make a mistake. Own up to what happened and move on. If you keep dwelling on the bad things that happened to you in the past, then it keeps the negativity of those incidences inside of you. Then you'll never stop complaining.

3. Stay in a positive environment.

A positive environment can give you positive energy. If you stay around negativity for too long, then you become negative yourself. Negative environments basically enable complainers to keep on complaining. It almost becomes a habit that they continue to feed. If you want to stop complaining, then you must find an environment that gives you no reason to complain. This could mean finding new friends or relationships that give you positive feedback rather than negative feedback.

4. Stop the blame game.

Complainers never want to take responsibility for their actions. Instead, they'll look for someone else to blame in order to feel better about themselves. You can't overcome your problems by doing this. Even if you feel like other people treated you unfairly, how is complaining about it going to make you feel better? It won't.

You need to make peace with what happened and move on. If there are people in your life that are toxic or a bad influence, then stay clear of them if you can at all help it.

5. Keep your mind focused on what you want, not on what you don't want.

Think about it. When your thoughts are those of what you want, how likely are you to complain? Not very, right? It's the things we don't want that we complain about, isn't it?

How do you keep your mind focused on what you want and off what you don't want?

The absolute best way I know of is to have a clear and definite vision that accurately reflects what's truly important to you and what you really want next in your life. Then, whenever you find yourself thinking about what you don't want, regardless of what it may be, you simply, gently switch your thoughts to that of your vision as your already accomplished reality.

The clearer and more definite your vision is and the more accurately it reflects what's truly important to you and what you really want next in your life, the easier this is to do.

Need help creating your vision and using it to control your thoughts? I highly recommend my Wallace D. Wattles Quick Start Guide and my Wallace D. Wattles Advanced Vision Guide, read in that order. Between the two of them, you'll learn just about everything you'll ever need to know about the subjects. Click or tap the links below to get your copies today.

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It's not necessarily easy to stop complaining, especially if it's been a long-time habit of yours. But if you continue to work on it, soon, before you know it, you'll find yourself never complaining again, and your life will be all the better for it.

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Develop Gratitude and Start Over

There are a lot of things in this world that can make us feel loss, depression, and sadness. The ending of something important to us can certainly make us feel all these things.

Perhaps your marriage or job is ending, and now you're forced to move to a new location and give up the lifestyle that you've grown accustomed to for years. This kind of change can make you feel empty, lonely, and disconnected from everything that you thought was real in your life.

We get used to our normal daily routine because it becomes part of who we are. If this routine is ever disturbed or disrupted in any way, it causes us to feel lost in our lives without any sense of our identity. If this routine never comes back, we continue to struggle with our identity until we can establish a new one.

If you want to make this identity transition less painful and disturbing to your life, then you need to focus on having gratitude for the good things that are to come. Even though the change in your life seems dark and grim right now, there's always light at the end of the tunnel.

Gratitude can make you realize that every new situation means there's a new beginning. This is what allows you to grow as a person and become better than you once were. Surely, there must have been some bad things in your current life that you want to change or get away from. Gratitude allows you to see the positive things that are waiting for you soon.

Here are a few tips to assist you in converting a negative circumstance into a positive one in order to promote personal growth and wellness:

1. Take out a notebook and open to a clean page. Write the following on the page, "Due to my loss, I experience grief over it due to ____________." In the blank area, state the reasons for your sadness over the loss and the way it makes you feel. Describe how it affects your happiness.

2. Go to another clean piece of paper in the notebook. Write the following on the page, "This situation has brought all of these valuable things into my life, such as __________." In the blank area, state every positive thing that was brought to you as a result of the situation.

3. Go to a third sheet of paper in the notebook. Write the following on the page, "After the previous situation had been released from my life, it paved the way for ___________." State all the opportunities and benefits that came to you after your previous situation changed into something new. For instance, maybe you got out of an abusive relationship, and now you're starting a new life that's free of abuse and sadness. So, talk about the benefits of living without these worries.

Therefore, you can always find something good that comes from a new situation. Even if it seems like a loss upfront, there are benefits that come along with it. Maybe you won't notice these benefits right away, but if you partake in the gratitude exercises mentioned above, then you'll learn to see the benefits more clearly.

Grief and sadness are normal feelings in life. But if you can focus on the good things that are ahead because of your bad situation, then it won't seem so unpleasant and scary. Just keep practicing those exercises regularly to heal your mind and stop feeling helpless.

For more on the subject of gratitude and the many ways it can benefit you, I highly recommend you read Wallace D. Wattles' The Science of... series, which includes  The Science of Getting RichThe Science of Being Well, and The Science of Being Great. Click or tap the links below to get your copy today.

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Take Back Your Life by Making Mindful Decisions

Humans are a unique species in this world because we have the power of free will and decision making. This can be a blessing or a curse, depending on the decisions you choose to make.

On an average day, we make decisions without even thinking about them. We just subconsciously decide what food to eat, the clothes we wear, and what time we want to wake up. There could be a few seconds where you stop and think, but then your impulse takes over.

For bigger decisions, such as who you're going to marry or where you want to go on vacation, you'll put a lot more thought into these decisions before you make them. No matter how big or serious our decisions are, they will have an impact on our lives. Even the tiniest decision could have a big consequence for us in the future.

People often fear the consequences of the decisions they're pondering over in their minds. This prevents them from making any decision, which is even worse in the long run. You must expect some risk of sadness or conflict from a decision, but that's life. If you want to take control of your life and make it better, then you must make decisions that could possibly have a bad outcome.

Think of making decisions like paying bills. You must do both of these within a certain time even though you're reluctant to do them. For instance, if you're late on your utility payment, then you could end up with no power or water as a consequence. And if you don't make a decision fast enough, the opportunity of that choice may no longer be there either.

What's the purpose of the decision you must make? What must be done to solve the dilemma and when must it be done? Some people like to make a list of the pros and cons of their biggest decisions. What's the consequence of each choice that you could make? If you see all these things spelled out for you on paper, then perhaps you'll see more clearly which decision you should make.

Once you figure out which decision is the best one to make, analyze the possible outcome of that decision and then go ahead and make it happen. If it ends up being a bad decision, then you can at least take comfort in knowing that you made a well-thought decision. More importantly, you can feel good knowing that you took action and didn't just sit back and do nothing.

One big or small decision can change your life forever. This should make you eager to want to make decisions and act on them because it'll increase your chances of improving your life.

Therefore, collect as much information and details on each decision and see if there's a better alternative. If it looks like a positive outcome can be achieved, then make the decision. Don't dwell on bad decisions or decisions that you never made. Just look back to learn from your mistakes so that you don't repeat them again.

Think of decision making like planning out the events of your life. Don't let the consequence and fear of a decision keep you from making it. Usually, the decisions that we think are bad end up turning out great. This is how you build more confidence.

As time goes on, making difficult decisions will actually become easier. You just need to keep practicing your decision making and improving your skills at it. Once you do, you can finally take control of your life and move it in a positive direction.

Want to speed up the process?

Here's a tip:

Once you're clear about what's truly important to you (not what you think should be important to you based on what other people think is important or want you to think is important) and what you really want in life (not what you think you should want based on what other people want or have or what other people want you to want or have) decision making becomes downright simple.

Why?

Because then everything pretty much becomes either constructive or destructive of your desired end and, as Wallace D. Wattles wrote in the preface to the articles in his Lessons in Constructive Science series:

"To learn how to make every thought and action constructive, is to master the secret of all attainment."

So, if you're one of those for whom decision making is a constant struggle, my advice is to start by making these two decisions:

  1. What's truly important to you.
  2. What you really want next in your life.

Get those two decisions made and all the rest will fall into place rather nicely.

Need help determining what's truly important to you and what you really want next in your life? My Wallace D. Wattles Quick Start Guide and my Wallace D. Wattles Advanced Vision Guide, in that order, will take you by the hand and guide you through the process. Click or tap the links below to get your copies today.

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Use Gratitude to Find Your Purpose in Life

Gratitude can benefit you in so many ways. It can even help you discover what your purpose in life is all about.

If you're like most people, you probably don't try very hard to feel grateful about anything. This causes you to have feelings of hollowness, unhappiness, boredom, depression, and frustration. It doesn't even matter if your life is currently tolerable because, without gratitude, you'll feel disconnected from just about everyone and everything around you.

If you can change your mindset by developing more appreciation for the things you have in your life, then you can bring positive changes to your life. In fact, you'll have the inspiration to conduct the necessary activities which serve your life's ultimate purpose.

Here are some reasons why gratitude helps so much:

1. When you have gratitude, you can find your true self.

Some people may call this their soul, inner voice, spirit, or subconscious. Whatever you want to call it, this is a deep area within yourself which experiences life to the fullest. This area represents who you are and who you're supposed to be. Your entire life from this point forward revolves around this area within yourself. It allows you to be your true self, which is a person who is compassionate, loving, generous, joyful, and grateful. You just need to start being grateful, and you'll automatically become more joyful, loving, generous, and so on. Then you can feel happier about your life than you ever have before. It'll be easier for you to display these emotions too.

Your true self always understands your purpose in life. You may think you know your purpose because you choose what you want it to be. However, the area deep within you already knows what makes you happy in life, even if you don't. But you can find out what makes you happy by connecting to this deep area within yourself. Once you learn which activities in life make you happy, you'll have the inspiration to strive toward doing them.

2. The possibilities in life are endless when you have gratitude.

The deep area within you knows that each desire you have has a possibility which follows it. Many of us know what our life's purpose is, but we keep stopping ourselves from pursuing it because of our skeptical mindset. How many times have you really wanted to do something, but you made pointless excuses for why you couldn't do it?

Maybe you told yourself it would be too difficult, too demanding, or that you don't have enough experience, skills, talent, or time to make it happen. It's easy to come up with these kinds of excuses because it gives you an excuse to stop trying. But you can stop making excuses as soon as you start being grateful. And the longer you remain grateful in your mind, the more positive feelings you'll have. Then it'll be easy to convince yourself that you can pursue your goals without any setbacks.

Sometimes you may not always see the path that you're supposed to take in life, even if you're grateful. That's okay because gratitude helps you realize that a path at least exists. All you need to do is have patience, and you'll find that path if you can maintain a grateful mindset.

3. Gratitude is a way to honor the greatest things about everyone, including yourself.

If you can keep honoring people in this way, you'll discover that you're already fulfilling a big purpose in your life. Remember that your life purpose isn't something that only relates to you personally. It also relates to the fulfillment of changing other people's lives for the better. Express your gratitude for each person you come across because it'll not only make you a better person, it'll make them better people as well. Give them your support and encouragement to build them up. On the flip side, direct that same kind of gratitude toward yourself as well.

Once your mindset has a complete sense of gratitude and appreciation for the experiences you've had in your life, then it'll be easy to attract even more purpose and meaning to it. Just focus on the positive things in life and it'll cause a chain reaction of mental clarity as you move forward. Then you can face the darkest tunnels and find light at the end of them.

Here's something for you to ponder today. It comes from Chapter 7 of Wallace D. Wattles' classic masterpiece The Science of Getting Rich ("Gratitude"):

"... the value of gratitude does not consist solely in getting you more blessings in the future. Without gratitude you cannot long keep from dissatisfied thought regarding things as they are.

The moment you permit your mind to dwell with dissatisfaction upon things as they are, you begin to lose ground. You fix attention upon the common, the ordinary, the poor, and the squalid and mean; and your mind takes the form of these things. Then you will transmit these forms or mental images to the Formless, and the common, the poor, the squalid, and mean will come to you.

To permit your mind to dwell upon the inferior is to become inferior and to surround yourself with inferior things.

On the other hand, to fix your attention on the best is to surround yourself with the best, and to become the best.

The Creative Power within us makes us into the image of that to which we give our attention.

We are Thinking Substance, and thinking substance always takes the form of that which it thinks about.

The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best; therefore it tends to become the best; it takes the form or character of the best, and will receive the best."

Think about it!

For more on the subject of gratitude and the many ways it can benefit you, I highly recommend you read Wallace D. Wattles' The Science of... series, which includes  The Science of Getting RichThe Science of Being Well, and The Science of Being Great. Click or tap the links below to get your copy today.

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How to Have Gratitude for the Challenges You Face

Every day, there are challenges in our lives that we must deal with. If you're like most people, you probably look down upon these challenges and just wish everything could be easy. But the truth is that challenges actually provide you with some amazing benefits. Once you come to realize this, you'll learn to be grateful for having these challenges come into your life.

Think about something in life that's challenging, but beneficial. Exercise is a great example of this. People who are overweight or out of shape tend to frown upon exercise because it makes them feel sweaty and uncomfortable. However, what they aren't thinking about is how great they'll feel after the exercise is over. Exercise can help you be stronger, faster, confident, feel better, look better, and be healthier. With all these benefits, is it really that difficult to exercise for 20 to 40 minutes per day?

You see, it's all a matter of putting your challenges into perspective and realizing the positive outcome of facing them. Don't just think about the challenge itself and how bad and uncomfortable it'll make you feel. Every challenge in life will be difficult when you face it. That's why it is called a challenge. If it were an easy thing to face, then what would be challenging about it?

When you face a challenge, try to see it as a way of testing your true potential. This could be a test of your endurance, strength, speed, wit, and/or stamina. More importantly, see your challenges as opportunities for bringing change and excitement to your life. People like to stay in their comfort zones because there are no challenges there. But if you don't face challenges, how will you ever grow as a person and find happiness and success in your life? Anyone who's ever been successful has had to face challenges head-on. You need to learn to do the same by having the right attitude about it.

Questions to Ask Yourself

When you're faced with a challenge, ask the following questions to yourself:

  • What can I learn about myself from this challenge?
  • Which areas of myself can be developed more from this challenge?
  • Which abilities and skills do I possess that can assist me with this challenge?
  • What are the benefits to be earned from doing this challenge?

Finally, you must be grateful to have these challenges and opportunities in your life. There are some people in this world who don't even have opportunities to better themselves like this. Whether your challenge is to climb a mountain, earn a master's degree, or run a marathon, always be grateful! Sure, you might feel intimidated by the challenge in the beginning, but never stop trying. As you face the challenge and invest your time and energy in it, things will get much better for you very quickly.

Look at every challenge as an opportunity to grow and better yourself. The more you practice this, the more you'll feel enthusiastic about challenges as they come into your life. Then you'll be so grateful and hungry for more challenges that you'll start looking for them yourself instead of waiting for them to find you. This is the perfect place to be in your life once you get there.

Here's a thought for you to ponder today. It comes from Chapter 7 of Wallace D. Wattles' classic masterpiece The Science of Getting Rich ("Gratitude"):

"... because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude."

Think about it!

For more on the subject of gratitude and its positive effects on your life, I highly recommend you read Wallace D. Wattles' The Science of... series, which includes  The Science of Getting RichThe Science of Being Well, and The Science of Being Great. Click or tap the links below to get your copy today.

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How Can You Learn to Meditate Correctly?

In  a survey I conducted, a reader wrote:

"Hi Tony,

How can a person learn to meditate correctly? I have plenty of time and try so hard to keep thoughts from entering my mind. Maybe I try too hard. Maybe there is a method of clearing your mind slowly but in a certain way.

Thanks."

Quite honestly, you're asking the wrong guy here. It's not something I do or have done, at least not in the sense I think you're using the word meditate, nor is it a subject I've given a whole heck of a lot of thought to.

I've experimented with some deep relaxation techniques over the years, mainly for stress reduction and subconscious programming, and have settled on a very simple technique based on something Mr. Wattles wrote about at least a couple of times in his writings that I describe in my book Wallace D. Wattles' Health Science Course (see link below).

However, I've never felt the need to keep thoughts from entering my mind entirely. I continually control my thoughts in the way that I teach in my Wallace D. Wattles Quick Start Guide (see link below), but that's it.

So, if, for whatever reason, you want to make it more complex than that, you need to look somewhere else. If not, I suggest the two books mentioned above.

While we're on the subject, another reader wrote:

"I would like to know more about 'ringing in the ears' sometimes associated with deep meditation but which can be heard by individuals at any time. What exactly is this ringing? What brain waves is it associated with? How to make the best use of it?"

Again, you're asking the wrong guy here. As I understand it, ringing in the ears can be caused by lots of things. A quick search of the internet will confirm that. However, a common reason I'm told is the use of pain and other medications (aspirin, etc.). Not much more I can tell you than that.

By the way, I'm not sure why I'm asked so much about meditation (those are but two of the many questions I've been asked on the subject), as it's not exactly something Mr. Wattles wrote a lot about, and, when he did, I think it was more in the sense of simply contemplating, pondering, or thinking about something.

Now, if you want to go ahead and do something more complex than that, for whatever reason, don't let me stop you, have at it. However, if you think you need to do that in order to properly practice and get results from Mr. Wattles' teachings, I can assure you that you don't.

That said, if you'd like to read the two books I mentioned above, you can get them by clicking on the links below.

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The Words You Choose Can Have Permanent Consequences

You know the phrase "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"? Well, it's not exactly accurate. Words are powerful, and, depending on which ones you use, they can have a dramatic effect - one that can even be downright devastating!

And we're not just talking about words that you say to other people. The words you say to yourself can be life-changing.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and called yourself fat? Have you ever told yourself you're an idiot for making a mistake? Unfortunately, every word you say - both out loud and inside your head - gets processed by your subconscious. Even worse, those words can get embedded in your subconscious and create a serious problem for your feelings of self-worth.

In other words, if you say it enough, you'll actually believe it!

For example, if you keep telling yourself that you're not very good at soccer, you'll never be able to master the sport. No matter how many lessons you take, videos you watch, or matches you play, it won't matter. Your words have created a defeatist attitude right from the start, and your mind will subconsciously work to fulfill that negative expectation.

And that's why apologies can't clear away all of the damage.

Let's say you call a friend an idiot. Even if you feel terrible later and apologize, you can't take it back. The person you hurled that word at may take it to heart - and they may be forever changed by it. Unfortunately, though, knowing that isn't always enough to stop you from doing it again. When people get angry, frustrated, stressed out, or disappointed, they're much more likely to slip up and say something they shouldn't.

As powerful as words can be to adults, children are especially vulnerable to them. Your kids will hang on every word you say, so if you say something in the heat of anger, it may stick. Unfortunately, words alone can make kids grow up with low self-esteem, shyness issues, or a feeling of complete worthlessness. Words can change the very essence of who they are!

So what's the best advice?

Think before you speak. Whether you're talking to your kids, your co-workers, or yourself, remember that a single word can change a person's life. In the end, your first grade teacher was right - "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

Want to know more?

I highly recommend your reading these three articles by Wallace D. Wattles:

  1. "Constructive Speech", the first of the fifteen articles in his Lessons in Constructive Science series.
  2. "Talk That Builds Wealth", the second of the fifteen articles in his Lessons in Constructive Science series.
  3. "Talk That Builds Health", the third of the fifteen articles in his Lessons in Constructive Science series.

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